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Scarcely had I passed them when I found Him whom my soul loves.

I held Him, and would not let Him go…

Song of Solomon 3:4


When the Bride (the church and the individual believer), in her search for her lover (Jesus), finally finds Him, she held Him.

Here, she did not just greet Him, shake His hand, or give Him a quick, friendly hug. She held Him.   She did not engage Him in conversation, peppering Him with a list of prayer requests or petitions.   She did not question Him.  She just held Him.  She did not politely courtesy, she did not stand afar off, she did not care if others saw her approach Him in public.  She did not follow protocol.  She held Him.   She held Him.  She held Him.  She held Him.  She held Him.  And she would not let Him go.

Notice that the Bride did not fear Him. The Bride had no doubt who she is in her relationship to Him.  She did not have to speak a word or ask for permission.   She knew Him, and she knew that He loved her.   There was nothing tentative about the Bride’s action.  She was confident in love.

In our personal times of trial and pain, we cry out to Jesus, and to Father God, to hold us.   We beckon the Holy Spirit to comfort us.   In difficult circumstances, it is essential that we rush into the loving, tender arms of Father God, into the gentle embrace of Jesus, and not slip out of the security of His presence, for His Name is a strong tower that the righteous run into (Proverbs 18:10).

However, there is a big difference between coming to God in brokenness, and coming to God in hot pursuit of intimacy.   In our weakness He holds us and heals us with His love.   In our passion we hold Him and minister to Him with our love.  Unashamed, the Bride expresses her wild affection for her lover, without waiting for Him to initiate their interaction.  She is not passive, but aggressive in romance!

It is easy to picture God holding us, but us holding God?   Yes, God desires to be held!  Are we confident in love?  Or do we still come into His presence tentatively?  Intimacy produces boldness, and Jesus is not anticipating a shy Bride!   Let us become confident lovers of God.   As we hold Him in our arms, we know exactly how He feels about us.


Scarcely had I passed them when I found Him whom my soul loves.

I held Him, and would not let Him go…

[Song of Solomon 3:4]

From this passage in Song of Solomon, we see the Bride (which represents the both individual believer and the corporate church) searching for her lover (Jesus Christ). The frantic pursuit of the “missing” Bridegroom is indicative of the level of desperation that each of us can and should have for the Lord. The Bride does not just have a mild desire for her beloved, she longs for Him intensely with all her heart and soul. She can not live without Him. She needs Him.

But, in order to find Him, the Bride needed to pass “them.” “Them” (who are the watchmen as indicated in the previous verse) are the spiritual authorities–leaders and ministers that we have in the church. The message here is not that ministers and leaders are unnecessary or a hindrance to our relationship with God. The point is, we all need to seek the Lord for ourselves, and cultivate intimacy with Jesus face to face, and no other person can do that for us.

Christian ministers can teach us and equip us through the Word of God. They can inspire, encourage, and exhort us to follow the commandments of the Lord. Overall, we need to submit to authorities in life (Rom 13:1) But as much as we need spiritual authorities, they cannot build our personal relationship with the Lord for us.

Intimacy with God is truly a personal quest. When we have sought Him beyond what others can show us, we will be so captivated by who He is. We would hold Him forever and never let Him go. His love and beauty are beyond description.

“Who is this, coming up from the wilderness, leaning on her beloved?”

In this passage in the Song of Solomon, the friends of the bride are gazing at the bride and not recognizing her, even though chapters earlier they could easily identify her.

The bride, who is the church (Rev 22:17), and each believer, had undergone a beautifying transformation in the wilderness, and is now coming out of the wilderness in greater intimacy with Christ.

The fact that the Bride’s friends are unable to recognize her is indicative of the degree of personal transformation that each one of us should have in Christ–we become so in love with Jesus that our friends and family are astonished at the radical changes in our lives.

Outside our Christian circles, the world should be awed by our transformation as well. We should be so filled with the glory and the love of God that the world asks in amazement, “Who is this?” When the lovers of God are raised to full maturity, the world will pay close attention to the Bride of Christ.

But, as we can see, most of this transformation happens in the wilderness, in the secret place, in the cleft of the rock (Song 2:14), in hiddenness. It is in the wilderness, where, removed from the temptations and distractions of the world, we enter into deeper intimacy with God.

In Hosea 2:14, God says, “Behold, I will allure her, and bring her into the wilderness, and speak tenderly to her.” In the wilderness, where the provision and resources are few, we learn to depend and lean on God, and not on our own strengths, abilities, and understanding (Prov 3:5). We learn to trust Him in every aspect of our lives.

Many of us have gone through wilderness seasons, but have we learned to lean upon our beloved? Have we been transformed in the wilderness to become more like Him?

Perhaps you are in a wilderness season in the Lord right now. The key is not to seek to get out of the wilderness as fast as you can, but to seek Him and find Him there. We can commune with Him, and rest in Him, in the middle of it all.

As we grow in love with Jesus in the wilderness, it is He who will lead us out in due season. And when we are out again in the open, may the world behold us in awe and wonder at who we have become in Christ.

welcome home… a place where you can relax and refresh your spirit.

Draw close to God.
Get intimate with Him.
Drink until you overflow
with His love.

Here are some spiritual nourishments for your soul. Read the devotionals, poems, and songs. Soak and be filled in His presence. Enjoy!

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